Finding out that your husband has been cheating on you is likely to be one of the most devastating things that can happen to you. It can be even more painful to SUSPECT that you are being cheated on, and that your cheating husband is playing you for a fool…but you don’t have any evidence or proof, only your suspicions and “gut instinct.”
Unfortunately, when a woman seriously suspects that she has a cheating husband, and that there is infidelity going on in their relationship, she is usually correct. But it can be a mistake for her to confront a cheating husband when there is no solid proof. It’s too easy for the cheating husband to simply deny the allegations, and turn it around on his wife — accusing HER of being paranoid, jealous, crazy, etc.
In many cases, the fastest and most effective way to confirm your suspicions, get the proof, and move forward with your life is to hire a private investigator. There are PI services in virtually every city (just do a Google search, or check the Yellow Pages), and you can call them and receive a free consultation.
There are numerous signs of infidelity that you can spot yourself, and use to “build your case” against your cheating husband, but there are other important reasons why you should consider hiring a private investigator.
First of all, you don’t want to break the law and get yourself into big trouble. Although all kinds of “surveillance technology” and “catch-a-cheater” devices are sold over the internet, in many cases it is not legal for a private individual (such as yourself) to use them.
If you install software on your partner’s computer to monitor what he’s doing on the internet, or record his phone calls, or follow him and take pictures of him while he is with another woman, you could actually be arrested and go to jail!
There are serious privacy laws and anti-stalking laws that you must follow, even if you are trying to watch a cheating husband. Breaking these laws can be a federal offense, and most people are not even aware of this.
This is when a good private investigator can be extremely useful. They are familiar with the laws in your state, and because they are licensed professionals, they have the legal right to put people under surveillance and gather evidence in ways that you are not allowed to.
Once the investigator has gathered conclusive evidence on the cheating husband, he will present it to you. In the future, if this case goes to court, this evidence can be presented because it was obtained by a fair and impartial third party (the investigator).
If you were to try to show evidence that you gathered on your own, by “stalking” your husband, it would never be admissable. The cheating husband’s lawywer would have it thrown out of court.
The last thing you want to do is wrongly accuse your husband of having an extramarital affair. That could cause as much damage to your relationship as infidelity itself. This is especially true if you have a suspicious or jealous nature. If you are this type of person, then hiring a private investigator will help you uncover the FACTS.
Just be prepared to spend some money. Infidelity investigations are not cheap and can easily run into the thousands of dollars, depending on what type of services you require, and if the investigation will be complicated and involve a lot of moving around.
(For example, if the investigator needs to follow your husband on business trips.) Hourly rates for investigators are usually around $100, and most require a retainer up front which is equal to at least a few hours of work.
But this can also be the best investment you’ve ever made. For a lot of women, you can’t put a price on finding out the truth about a cheating husband — and getting the closure you need, so that you can move on with your life.